I am 29 years old young lady and I just graduated from the university. I am —– to go for my national service next year and I am 3 months pregnant for my boyfriend who is seven years older than I am and a lecturer in one of the nations universities.
My problem has been bothering me for about four months now and it has to do with my boyfriends attitude. We have dated for over a year now and I must confess he used to be very loving and caring until lately. Not that he does not love me but his behaviour is sending every signals to me. He has proposed marriage, but wants to wait till I complete my national service.
Since I got pregnant my boyfriend does not spend enough time with me. He leaves the house as early as 7:00 am in the morning and comes home as late as 10:00pm at night. He always says he is running after money to make us comfortable and assures me that when he changes his job things would get better.
I get so bored staying alone at home and I don’t have much friends who came to visit. Or who I visit. I have complained to his family and I am aware that his mother has called him privately to advise him to change his ways.
It is obvious that he did not heed her advise. Sometimes when I call him, he does not pick his phone and when he gets back home in the evening he says he knows what I wanted to tell him that’s why he did not respond and signs for that reason he decided to come home earlier on such occassions – which is always around 9:00pm or thereabouts.
Please I need your advise because I am getting more depressed by the day. I am even nursing thoughts of regrets over getting pregnant for him and I wonder if this is the way he will treat me when we get married.
At times when he comes home early maybe around 6:00pm he goes out again and when I ask to go with him, he finds one reason or the other why I shouldn’t. I am just three months pregnant and it is not obvious for now so I wonder whether he is ashamed for me to accompany him out.
Is it too late for me to opt out of the relationship which entails my having an abortion since it is not too late now. Or should I continue to tolerate his inattention to my plight. What do you think is wiser to do?